There are those born into an identity.
Then there are those born without one.
The ones without one search for one they think they should have.
The ones born with an identity think their choices and lot in life is already chosen for them.
What one has , the other does not.
The one without identity at birth, have an opportunity to make their own. They have no real “limits” to whom they can be.
Which one is worse off? Which one had it made?
Both suffer, but both have the ability to change their own identities any time they wish.
The task in doing so will certainly be different for them, but the outcome the same.
They will have taken control of their own life and given it the identity of their choosing.