Blue~ Has A Friend, Too

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Blue was rather quiet today. She sat mostly outside and just contemplated things. Today was warm and not too humid with a slight breeze blowing. In her thoughts, she was reminiscing on friends she had and those that were no longer her friends. The one girl in particular that was dominating her thoughts, was her friend Laura. Laura was rather tall for a girl of their age. She was quirky, to say the least. Her ways and demeanor earned her many a nickname from her classmates at their school. Blue liked all that about Laura, she often thought it made Laura special. Laura took it all in stride and really did not show that all the nicknames and teasing from her classmates, bothered her. With her pretty brown eyes, she would say so much, you only had to know her to know what she was saying. Blue knew her that way. They had long been friends, and there was very little each other did not know. So today, Laura was on Blue’s mind.

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Blue was bored today and let her thoughts carry her off into a journey of memories and things. Laura was top on the thinking block. See, days ago Laura was teased so bad, her parents were called to come to pick her up from school. She had been on the playground at school and had taken a fall. Blue knew exactly what happened, she saw it all. There were several boys who were just bullies. They liked to call Laura names, a lot. They had gone a little too far this day and pushed Laura down. She fell against a sidewalk and skinned her knee bad enough she had to go to the emergency room to get stitches. The boys all were called to the principal’s office and they had detention issued as well as having to apologize and write letters to Laura and her parents. Laura’s parents were sad that Laura was picked on so much, and they were rather outspoken about it, to the principal. It was not the first time they had fussed about their daughter getting picked on.

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Seems that nothing really changed for Laura when she returned the next day to school. Blue felt so bad for her friend and wanted to send a warning to those boys who were responsible. So at recess Blue had confronted those boys, who were not allowed to be within a foot of Laura, during recess, and she lit into them. She told them it was wrong to mistreat someone just because they were different. She told them that no matter how weird or different a person is to them, that they should just let them be. Laura saw this all from a distance and a faint smile was across her face as she watched. Blue was angry and with good reason, there was no sense in all this way of behaving. The boys all just stood there and listened to all Blue was telling them. it was as if they were actually re-thinking their actions. Blue spent the rest of recess comforting her friend and told her that she would always defend her and be there for her. Laura hugged Blue and the two felt a little bit stronger. They knew together they would be a force to be reckoned with. After all Blue had the strong will and Laura had all the things necessary to make a person laugh. What more could a person ask for?

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Blue was looking at how her friend must have felt being picked on and then getting pushed and hurt. She determined that she would never be that kind of person, the one that hurt another because of their differences. So for the rest of that school year, Blue made it her mission to friend the weird, the different, and the lonely kids in her grade. She sat with them at lunch and played with them at recess. She lent them books, paper, pencils, and whatever she could when they did not have anything. She and her friend Laura were inseparable and they stayed friends up until her friend’s family moved away. She often thought of that one friend, Laura that changed her perspective on how others feel and get treated. Even in Blue’s adult life that one friend always crosses her mind. She reflects on those wonderful childhood days when she and Laura were friends.

Blue finished up on her thoughts and ran into her house to look at pictures of her and Laura. “This day wasn’t so bad for her,” she thought. When you don’t feel alone when you have a purpose, a friendship like that, what more could you ask for?

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My thoughts/>>>>Let’s Talk About Bullying!!!! — Mws R Writings

Stomp Out Bullying kick-starts National Bullying Prevention Month in October.

This year, the group has declared October 1 World Day of Bullying Prevention.

On this day, schools around the world unite to end bullying. Students and teachers wear blue to promote the effort. Why blue? In many cultures, the color represents peace.
Stomp Out Bullying is a national antibullying and anti-cyberbullying organization. It helps more than 5 million students resolve bullying situations. It also educates students in 15,000 schools about bullying prevention.

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https://americanspcc.org/bullying/statistics-and-information/ Bullying Statistics 160,000 kids per day skips school for fear of being bullied.1 When bystanders intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57% of the time.2 The 3 B’s of Bullying 1.Bullier – 30% of youth admit to bullying 2.Bullied – 1 in 3 students bullied at school 3.Bystander – 70% have witnessed bullying […]

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My thoughts/>>>>Let’s Talk About Bullying!!!!

https://americanspcc.org/bullying/statistics-and-information/

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Bullying Statistics

 

160,000 kids per day skips school for fear of being bullied.1

When bystanders intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57% of the time.2

The 3 B’s of Bullying
1.Bullier – 30% of youth admit to bullying
2.Bullied – 1 in 3 students bullied at school
3.Bystander – 70% have witnessed bullying

BEEN BULLIED
28% of U.S. students in grades 6–12 experienced bullying.3
20% of U.S. students in grades 9–12 experienced bullying.4

BULLIED OTHERS
Approximately 30% of young people admit to bullying others in surveys.5

WITNESSED BULLYING
70.6% of young people say they have seen bullying in their schools.6
70.4% of school staff have seen bullying. 62% witnessed bullying two or more times in the last month and 41% witness bullying once a week or more.7
When bystanders intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57% of the time.2

BEEN CYBERBULLIED
6% of students in grades 6–12 experienced cyberbullying.8
16% of high school students (grades 9–12) were electronically bullied in the past year.9
However, 55.2% of LGBT students experienced cyberbullying

Bullying…

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Risk Factor for Bullying

No single factor puts a child at risk of being bullied or bullying others. Bullying can happen anywhere—cities, suburbs, or rural towns. Depending on the environment, some groups, such as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgendered (LGBT) youth,11 youth with disabilities,12 and socially isolated youth, may be at an increased risk of being bullied.

Generally, children who are bullied have one or more of the following risk factors:
•Are perceived as different from their peers, such as being overweight or underweight, wearing glasses or different clothing, being new to a school, or being unable to afford what kids consider “cool”
•Are perceived as weak or unable to defend themselves
•Are depressed, anxious, or have low self-esteem
•Are less popular than others and have few friends
•Do not get along well with others, seen as annoying or provoking, or antagonize others for attention

However, even if a child has these risk factors, it doesn’t mean that they will be bullied.

It has affected someone I love…

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My daughter was a victim of bullying in her middle school years. She was treated really  cruel by her own peers. Her teachers and administrators of her school were not there for her. They did not see her struggling and never saw the bullying that she was subjected to, or so they said.

One of the ways my daughter was bullied was that her bullies took her possessions. Once she had her mp3 taken and her book bag was taken and placed under a running shower in gym class.  Her stuff was soaked and her spirit was damaged. She did not know why she was constantly being bullied, but I as her mom, figured it was because she was a girl who “marched to her own drum”, her beautiful inquisitive self was different from her age group and she was still so young at heart. While her so-called friends were trying makeup on and worrying about their clothes, she was looking for bugs, to explore and still so naively innocent. She did not care for things like that, the things like makeup and fashion, or trying to grow up too fast. All her teachers found her “young at heart” characteristics refreshing.

I think children are always in too much of  a hurry to grow up, and too fast. Children should be children for as long as they can, just my opinion.

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I have never really cared for bullies. I really though can relate to their many reasons for doing so. Sometimes people feel the need to make other people feel inferior to them, because it makes them feel superior. Or perhaps they get bullied at home and that is the only behavior they recognize or that is the only way they relate to people, you know?

I am not by any means saying it is right, because it most certainly is not! It is something that can greatly change a person’s life, I know you have watched television and saw the many suicides from people who have been bullied. Even in cyber space there is a considerable amount of bullying going on. You can find it in workplaces, college, school, homes, and playgrounds. It is everywhere, when someone who wants to be a bully.

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I wish it was something we did not have to worry about. Any parent ho has a child that is somehow different, they worry about this. The person who is obese worries about this! The person who is kind of weird, worries about this!

It affects all walks of humans, all aspects of a person’s life. It almost like a disease, in that the ways it does affect a person.

WHY ME?

If you or someone you love is being bullied or has been bullied then you have to know it is not your fault or theirs. It is simply someone who empowers their own self despite the implications for another or pain it causes another person.

HOW DO YOU STOP BULLIES???…

Well there is no easy answer. It must start in a person’s childhood, in their homes, in their schools, on the playgrounds and in the churches. Adults need to identify and understand how bullying is and what it does. Adults need to be role models and they need to report bullying to the appropriate person’s when they se a child , especially, being affected. The adults need to help somehow. Children cannot speak for themselves a lot of times because they fear for their own self’s. Sometimes the child will become a recluse because they are scared. Getting information from a bullied child is sometimes a “hit and miss” at best.

Workplaces, you should always report it. Ask to remain anonymous. Leave a note on a supervisors desk if you have to.

Parents, don’t let one of your children constantly get picked on. Intervene when and where necessary. Make sure each child does not have a reason to bully.


I am passionate about helping children and adults that are bullied. I have seen it in my own life and in my own family. I do not wish anyone to be a victim of bullying. No matter how different, how much of a weirdo a person might be, we all deserve respect and understanding. We all deserve to be who we want to be, without being bullied.

If you know someone who is being bullied, please try to help them. Children who are bullied can grow up to be bullies themselves.

Let’s stop the cycle!

Thank you for reading! Share post if you want to.

Michelle(MwsR) ❤