I wrote my first book a few years ago. I was just learning things and since it was self-published, it had grammatical errors and probably misspellings. I hope to one day correct that. The same goes for my second book. On my third book, I think I did much better. It has been a gradual progression of teaching myself and working hard to provide a quality book.
I hope you will like the poems though. They are genuine and from my heart. Some I have posted on my webpage. I have a lot of poems. I have tried to collect them and save them for future use.
I guess this is my “Heart Series” and I hope to keep going with it.
With the exalted title of the largest land-based arthropod in the world, it’s a wonder that the giant coconut crab doesn’t get more press than it does. These animals are generally nocturnal and live in many coastal and forest regions of Indo-Pacific islands.
They get their name from their ability to climb coconut palm trees, where they clip off the coconuts, return to the ground, peel of the coconut husks, and hammer the fruits open with rocks or their large claws. On some islands, the giant coconut crab is also known as the robber crab or palm thief because of its habit of taking shiny items.
Giant coconut crabs primarily eat nuts, seeds, and fleshy fruits such as coconuts. However, as omnivores, they will consume other items as well.
These large crabs have a body length of about 16 inches and a leg span of three feet. They can weigh up to nine pounds. There are even accounts of them growing to become more than six feet across and weighing up to 30 pounds. They can also live more than 30 years.
These crabs are unusual because they can’t swim. Though they require water to survive, even smaller ones can drown in water. They have an organ called a branchiostegal lung, which can be described as a cross between gills and lungs. This lung allows the crab to take oxygen out of the air but also has to be kept moist to function. Because of the nature of this lung, one of the most likely times to see coconut crabs is during a rainstorm, as the moisture allows them to breathe more easily.
Though an adolescent has many predators, the only danger to a fully grown coconut crab is mankind—the crab is a delicacy as well as an aphrodisiac in Southeast Asia and the Pacific Islands. Female crabs are particularly in high demand if they have eggs that can be harvested.
Binge eating is when a person eats a much larger amount of food in a shorter period of time than he or she normally would. During binge eating, the person also feels a loss of control.
Considerations
A binge eater often:
Eats 5,000–15,000 calories in one sitting
Often snacks, in addition to eating three meals a day
Overeats throughout the day
Binge eating by itself usually leads to becoming overweight.
Binge eating may occur on its own or with another eating disorder, such as bulimia. People with bulimia typically eat large amounts of high-calorie foods, usually in secret. After this binge eating, they often force themselves to vomit or take laxatives. For more information, see: Bulimia
Causes
The cause of binge eating is unknown. However, binge eating often begins during or after strict dieting.Last Updated: 08/22/2017
Most people with binge-eating disorder are overweight or obese, but you may be at a normal weight. Behavioral and emotional signs and symptoms of binge-eating disorder include:
Eating unusually large amounts of food in a specific amount of time, such as over a two-hour period
Feeling that your eating behavior is out of control
Eating even when you’re full or not hungry
Eating rapidly during binge episodes
Eating until you’re uncomfortably full
Frequently eating alone or in secret
Feeling depressed, disgusted, ashamed, guilty or upset about your eating
Frequently dieting, possibly without weight loss
Unlike a person with bulimia, after a binge, you don’t regularly compensate for extra calories eaten by vomiting, using laxatives or exercising excessively. You may try to diet or eat normal meals. But restricting your diet may simply lead to more binge eating.
The severity of binge-eating disorder is determined by how often episodes of bingeing occur during a week.
When to see a doctor
If you have any symptoms of binge-eating disorder, seek medical help as soon as possible. Binge-eating problems can vary in their course from short-lived to recurrent or they may persist for years if left untreated.
Talk to your medical care provider or a mental health professional about your binge-eating symptoms and feelings. If you’re reluctant to seek treatment, talk to someone you trust about what you’re going through. A friend, loved one, teacher or faith leader can help you take the first steps to successful treatment of binge-eating disorder.
Helping a loved one who has symptoms
A person with binge-eating disorder may become an expert at hiding behavior, making it hard for others to detect the problem. If you have a loved one you think may have symptoms of binge-eating disorder, have an open and honest discussion about your concerns.
Provide encouragement and support. Offer to help your loved one find a qualified medical care provider or mental health professional and make an appointment.
Causes
The causes of binge-eating disorder are unknown. But genetics, biological factors, long-term dieting and psychological issues increase your risk.
Risk factors
Binge-eating disorder is more common in women than in men. Although people of any age can have binge-eating disorder, it often begins in the late teens or early 20s.
Factors that can increase your risk of developing binge-eating disorder include:
Family history. You’re much more likely to have an eating disorder if your parents or siblings have (or had) an eating disorder. This may indicate that inherited genes increase the risk of developing an eating disorder.
Dieting. Many people with binge-eating disorder have a history of dieting. Dieting or restricting calories during the day may trigger an urge to binge eat, especially if you have symptoms of depression.
Psychological issues. Many people who have binge-eating disorder feel negatively about themselves and their skills and accomplishments. Triggers for bingeing can include stress, poor body self-image and the availability of preferred binge foods.
Complications
You may develop psychological and physical problems related to binge eating.
Complications that may be caused by binge-eating disorder include:
Poor quality of life
Problems functioning at work, with your personal life or in social situations
Social isolation
Obesity
Medical conditions related to obesity, such as joint problems, heart disease, type 2 diabetes, gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD) and some sleep-related breathing disorders
Psychiatric disorders that are often linked with binge-eating disorder include:
Depression
Bipolar disorder
Anxiety
Substance use disorders
Prevention
Although there’s no sure way to prevent binge-eating disorder, if you have symptoms of binge eating, seek professional help. Your medical care provider can advise you on where to get help.
If you think a friend or loved one has a binge-eating problem, steer her or him toward healthier behavior and professional treatment before the situation worsens. If you have a child:
Foster and reinforce a healthy body image, regardless of body shape or size
Discuss any concerns with your child’s primary care provider, who may be in a good position to identify early indicators of an eating disorder and help prevent its development
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There’s some truth to the old adage that breakfast is the “most important meal of the day,” and that’s why we’re not surprised a whopping 78 percent of people enrolled in the NWCR reported they eat breakfast every day. What’s more? if you’re looking to lose weight, exactly what weight loss breakfast foods can make all the difference. According to a study from the University of Missouri in Columbia, a high-fiber, high-protein breakfast (like these 19 High Protein Breakfasts That Keep You Full) may be the most important investment you can make in your waistline. The study showed that eating breakfast triggered women’s brains to release dopamine, a feel-good chemical that helps to control impulses. In other words, eating a balanced breakfast decreases your chances of reaching for that 3 p.m. candy bar, and keeps your belly slim.
Furthermore, additional research has shown that forgoing the morning meal is harmful to your metabolism and can actually lead to unwanted weight gain. A study from the American Journal of Epidemiology found that people who cut out the breakfast were 4.5 times more likely to be obese, and scientists suspect that’s because skipping meals slows your metabolism and boosts your hunger. That harmful dynamic puts your body in prime fat-storage mode and increases your odds of overeating at the next meal. Skipping breakfast isn’t the only reason for your unwanted weight gain.
2010 The world’s first country-wide total tobacco ban goes into effectBhutan banned the cultivation, harvesting, production, and sale of tobacco and tobacco products. It is still legal in the South Asian country to smoke in a private setting, but obtaining tobacco products legally is close to impossible.
1976 South African police kill hundreds of protesting schoolchildrenAn estimated 20,000 youth were protesting against the introduction of Afrikaans as the languages of instruction in their schools when police officers started firing into the crowd. The “Soweto uprising” is today commemorated on Youth Day each year.
1967 The Monterey Pop Festival opensThe three-day concert event featured historic performances by Jimi Hendrix, The Who, Ravi Shankar, and Janis Joplin.
1963 Valentina Tereshkova becomes the first woman in spaceThe Soviet cosmonaut completed 48 orbits on board the spaceship “Vostok 6” before returning safely to Earth. The former textile worker was declared “Hero of the Soviet Union” and received the United Nations Gold Medal of Peace.
1960 Alfred Hitchcock’s film Psycho is premieredThe horror-thriller starring Anthony Perkins and Vera Miles has become one of the classics of the genre. The shower scene is one of the best-known murder scenes in the history of film.
Births On This Day – June 16
1971 Tupac ShakurAmerican rapper, producer, actor
1912 Enoch PowellBritish politician
1890 Stan LaurelEnglish actor, comedian
1882 Mohammad MosaddeghIranian politician, 60th Prime Minister of Iran
1723 Adam SmithScottish philosopher, economist
Deaths On This Day – June 16
2014 Tony GwynnAmerican baseball player, coach
1993 Lindsay HassettAustralian cricketer
1977 Wernher von BraunGerman physicist, engineer
1969 Harold Alexander, 1st Earl Alexander of TunisEnglish field marshal, 17th Governor General of Canada
1722 John Churchill, 1st Duke of MarlboroughEnglish general, politician
Listening to what another person has to say is a basic way to respect them. Everyone wants to have their say. Everyone wants to feel that they’re being listened to. Whether they have something profound to say is not the point. People want to be heard… period.
When you give another person your time and your focus and your ear, you validate them. Which conveys respect.
The provision of human rights begins when those who have not listened to a particular segment of society begin to listen. All social change begins with dialogue. Civil dialogue.
Until you listen to another person’s concerns, you will not know who they are and what’s important to them. Respect begins with listening.
2. Affirm
When we affirm someone, we’re giving evidence that they matter. That they have value. That they’re important. And that they’re worthy of respect.
Simply affirming someone virtually guarantees that you respect them. To affirm someone, you just have to notice something positive about that person and verbalize this observation.
“You’ve shown great determination over the past 2 years to get your business off the ground.”
“You were incredibly patient and understanding when dealing with that difficult situation.”
“You make me smile every time I see you.”
You may not respect every aspect of who they are and what they do, but you can give them appropriate respect at the level that affirms them. Affirmation is a key way of showing respect to others.
3. Serve
English-American poet W.H. Auden once said that “We are all here on earth to help others; what on earth the others are here for I don’t know.”
Life on earth is about serving others. In fact, our professions, our careers, and our jobs should revolve around a desire to serve others. To give back to others. To use our talents and abilities to make life better for others.
Serving shows that we care. And caring shows that we respect. Serving is an important element in showing respect.
4. Be Kind
Though kindness and service are first cousins, they aren’t identical. We can serve without being kind. But it’s very difficult to be kind without serving.
When we’re kind to someone, we’re giving of ourselves. We’re giving something they can use. Maybe something they need. Maybe something they need desperately.
Kindness is an expression of respect. Respect for the fact that someone else is simply in need. We have all been in need. And what a relief it was when someone showed us kindness. Kindness is a tangible way of showing respect.
5. Be Polite
It’s appalling to witness the decline of politeness in the modern world. Whether it’s on the highway, at the grocery store, in the parking lot, on the athletic field, on Facebook, or in political rhetoric – polite discourse and interaction is rapidly becoming a lost art.
Yet, it’s so easy to be polite. And it’s so inexpensive too. An act of politeness can literally change a person’s day. It can even change a person’s life.
It can lift their spirits instantly. It can help them press on through what may be difficult. Some cultures in the world are known for their politeness. Other cultures are known for their rudeness.
Which communicates respect and which doesn’t? If you want to show respect for someone, start by being polite.
6. Be Thankful
If William James was right, that human beings crave appreciation, then thankfulness is the way we affirm it.
When someone does something for you that’s beneficial. Or they say something to you that’s helpful in some way. Or they honestly affirm you in some way that’s important to you. You should thank them.
Again, thankfulness is becoming increasingly rare in our world.
I hold the door for people, and they walk right past without even seeming to notice. I let people out into my lane of traffic so they’ll save time. They look at me as if it’s their solemn birthright. I help people in other ways that I’m certain was valuable to them. Yet I hear nothing in the way of thanks.
It’s not so much that we need to be thanked. It’s that we want to feel that what we’ve done has made a difference. When there is no thankfulness for something we’ve done, or even for who we are, we feel a lack of respect.
Respect doesn’t always require thankfulness. But it often does. It’s just another way we show respect. It’s just another way that we feel respected.
Why Respect Is Important In Life
What’s so great about respect anyway? Why does it matter in the grand scheme of things?
1. Showing respect is the right response in a civil society.
One of the characteristics of a civil society is the showing of respect to fellow citizens. The conviction that other members of a family, a town, a city, a nation, or a region of the world are worthy of respect.
The Universal Declaration of Human Rights was adopted by the United Nations General Assembly in Paris in 1948. Its goal was to grant status worthy of respect to all human beings everywhere. No human being is exempt.
Showing respect for human life and human beings is fundamental to a civil society and civil world.
2. Respect affirms those worthy of respect.
When we respect others, it affirms their right to respect and their worthiness of respect. On the other hand, when we withhold respect from others, we imply they are unworthy of it.
This can trigger a decline that is exceedingly difficult to arrest and end. Once it is generally believed that a certain race or ethnic group or nationality or skin color or gender or age is unworthy of respect, the flood gates open for abuse.
We’ve seen this many times in the past two centuries in particular. The natural and logical outcome of the removal of respect from particular classes is first rejection, then discrimination, then abuse, and ultimately genocide.
It starts with a lack of respect. It’s another reason why respect should be common among all peoples everywhere, and why respect is so important.
3. It encourages behavior that’s respectful.
When someone is living in a way that brings them recognition, honor, and respect, it encourages their living that way. Not always, but usually. Behavior that’s rewarded tends to be repeated.
Or, put another way, “What’s rewarded gets done.”
Whether we wish that behavior worthy of respect would be common without encouragement misses the point. It’s simply human nature to do what gets rewarded and shy away from what doesn’t.
4. It provides a solid foundation for relationships.
There should be serious reluctance to maintain a relationship that does not offer respect. People don’t like to be treated badly. People don’t like to be demeaned, devalued, dishonored, and disrespected.
If a relationship lacks respect, it is almost certainly an unhealthy one. Toxic relationships nearly always have a lack of respect as a common element.
Meaningful, healthy, and mutually-beneficial relationships show mutual respect. It’s fundamental.
5. Without respect we lose heart.
Respect is so basic to human well-being that in its absence, people don’t thrive. They don’t need to have respect from everyone – but there are certain people from whom respect is virtually mandatory.
The father of modern psychiatry, William James said, “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” Those who are not appreciated do not feel respected. It’s disheartening.
The history of the struggle for civil rights throughout the world is the struggle to win respect from others. The American Founding Fathers expressed it in the United States Declaration of Independence this way:
“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness.”
Respect for human beings entails the granting, preserving, and protection of these rights. Without respect, these rights will be missing. And if these rights are missing, respect will be missing too. They exist together.
Conclusion
So, we’ve seen what respect is. We’ve seen how to show respect in practical ways. And we’ve seen why respect is important.
Hopefully we not only see that respect is an important aspect of life, but we see why it’s important to show it consistently. Everyone is due respect by virtue of being a human being.
Everyone wants respect. Everyone should show respect. So hopefully everyone will receive the respect they’re due, and they’ll grant the respect due to others.
Select treated lumber so your sofa bench can stay in the outdoors year round. Pre-cut all your boards, or have them cut for you at the hardware store to save time. It is important to consider whether you have a saw that can handle 2″x 6″ and 2″ x 8″ boards…if not you will want to have them cut at the hardware store. The armrest and backrest is built solely from 2″x4″ wood, while the seat is framed out with 2″x6″ wood but I will reference the actual rather than nominal sizes moving forward.Save
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Build Seat Frame
After making all your initial cuts, start by framing out your seat base. Using a Kreg Jig place pocket holes in either side of two 1 1/2″ x 6″ x 22.5″ seat frame pieces, and attach to inside of the 1 1/2″ x 6″ x 72″ seat frame pieces. Use a little wood glue when attaching all pieces moving forward, and a carpenter square to ensure all joining pieces are square.Save
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Complete The Frame
Add pocket holes on either side of three of your 1 1/2″ x 4″ x 22.5″ boards. Attach them within the frame, spaced evenly apart. Attach each one flush with the top of the frame. This is your seat base where the slats will lay across later.Save
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Assemble Armrest Frame
Place pocket holes at both ends of four 1 1/2″ x 4″ x 22.5″ boards. Screw one 22.5″ armrest boards between the two 1 1/2″ x 4″ x 32″ armrest boards, flush to the top. Mark 12″ from the bottom of either arm/leg piece, then attach the second 22.5″ board flipped on it’s side, with the top at that 12″ mark. Follow these steps again to create the second armrest.Save
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Prepare To Assemble
Put pocket holes in either end of the 1 1/2″ x 4″ x 72″ backrest board. Then position the seat frame, armrest frames, and backrest to prepare for assembly. Place pieces so the sofa is oriented on it’s side for easier assembly.Save
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Attach Armrest To Seat Frame
Attach the armrests to the seat frame while on it’s side. Screw directly through the armrest frame into the seat frame, and do the same from the seat frame side into the armrest. Stagger where you place your screws. Set your seat upright.Save
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Attach Backrest
Once upright, attach the 72″ backrest piece (pocket holes facing back) flush between the two armrests.Save
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Add Seat Slats
Evenly space the four 3/4″ x 6″ x 72″ wooden seat slats atop your seat frame, and nail down to the seating frame.Save
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Optionally Add Decorative Slats
Optionally nail evenly spaced 3/4″ x 8″ x 25.5″ decorative slats to the outside armrest, and the single 3/4″ x 8″ x 79″ slat across the inside back. These are not necessary for support, but give a modern appeal to the bench. Sand the entire bench well, and stain!
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