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https://www.foxnews.com/lifestyle/couple-adopts-2-sets-twins

A couple has adopted two sets of twins in one day in order to keep siblings together while “spreading the love.”

By Ann W. Schmidt | Fox News
Shania, Wilnya, Sharleathea and William are pictured from left to right.
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Karen and Tobias Thompson, both 55, from Cincinnati, Ohio, adopted 14-year-olds Wilnya and William and 9-year-olds Shania and Sharleathea last week. 

By Ann W. Schmidt | Fox News

Did You Know?

Adoption Facts~

One in 3 children adopted from foster care are adopted by parents who are a different race.

Most adopted children from foster care are non-white, while the majority (73%) of the children’s adopted parents is white.[7]

Nearly 40% of children adopted from foster care live in families with three or more adopted and birth children, making their family structures more complex than other adopted children.[7]

Over 30,000 children in the American foster care system “age out” each year.[8]The time it takes a couple to receive a child domestically or internationally depends on many factors, such as how restrictive a family’s adoption plan is (e.g., being open to only one race or gender).[6]

Both domestic and international adoptions have similar total costs, typically ranging from $25,000 to $50,000, but they both have their own unique costs. For example, couples adopting internationally may have to budget for a visa, whereas couples adopting domestically may have to budget for the birth mother’s rent or medical bills.[6]

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Mother, Or Life-Giver?

She was someone I never got to know

Holding onto some idea of how it was to go.

I studied each picture, all the time

Trying to find resemblance of her in this face of mine.

My siblings say I look like her so

My heart held onto that and tried to never say “no”

For if I was like her even in looks

She would of stuck it out, and I’d never be forsook.

I think about her often, it has been five years now

Since I said my final goodbye and my world was turned around.

Mother she was but not in the sense of a relationship or in name

She never earned that with me, it’s a shame.

I was adopted out to my aunt and uncle

It was a different kind of struggle.

They cherished me not, loved me little

I was tormented and caught in the middle.

Mother was not the way I knew my life giver

Even though her blood runs through my veins

She was a life giver, for that I am grateful

But it changes very little.

When I think of her, as I often do

I wish she had been a mother too.

Some people come into our life for a specific purpose

They might not realize it at first

I think she knew that my life began with her

But that it would continue without her.

She may had of had feelings like a mother would for me,

Yet I could not see.

So life can grab us and weigh us down

It gives us struggles that can cause lots of frowns

It’s all is in how you measure what your portions are

That when you can start to repair your heart.

As I am learning to do,

Taking the little I had and working it through.

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By MwsR

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St.Patrick’s Day and My Personal Adoption Thoughts.

Today is St. Patrick’s Day. I love the Irish celebrated person Day. St. Patrick was a man who did selfish acts. He believed in something higher than we ourselves. Although we celebrate him and what he done as a National Holiday, let us not forget the countless numbers of people who are just as important. People that selfishly contribute to our world and to our population. Those who tirelessly give of their time and their selves. I believe we all can contribute something of value. Even if it the slightest of things, they can impact in bigger ways. Don’t ever count yourself as useless.

ADOPTION AND MY BIRTH MOTHER

Onto another reason why today is special for me. My birth mom was born this day, many years ago. She has since passed and this day has forever been memorialized after her.

I grew up not knowing her, nor spending any time with her. I was not allowed to know of her nor to see her, because my adoptive parents thought that she was not a good role model, or honestly, they felt intimidated by her. I often thought of her growing up. I wondered if the rumors were true. Rumors being that I was abandoned by her. All sorts of things filled my mind back in my childhood. I went from being confident to doubting the purpose of my existence. I questioned people’s motives like I took breaths. I had no reason to ever believe another’s word if my own birth mother had given me up. I felt useless and hurt by the very people I should have been able to count on. Instead, I was filled with fear of trusting and a lack to fill the endless void I had inside me.

I could say that I went on to forget all that as I matured and grew into an adult, but Id be lying. Here I was ot knowing the mere beginnings or any family traits or what have you, pertaining to me. I struggled. I sought out bad relationships, I let people mistreat me, I thought I deserved none the less. I felt like I was on a treadmill and the wheels were to keep turning whether I had the energy to do anything or not. I was shamelessly stuck in the middle pf my own life with no end in sight. I could not breath, could not trust, could not live, and most certainly ever be truly happy. To say this all went away in adulthood is not a truth I let my self think of. I was and still am in many ways, scared to let people love me, scared to wholeheartedly trust someone, nd still trying to piece my birth and what followed into a lifelong message.

As adulthood came, I sought out my birth mother and my siblings from that same mother. I searched and instead of being able to ask my adoptive mother, I had to look to any place I could to find the most remote answers. A boyfriend I had at the time helped. He and I were in a five-year relationship and he knew how important it was for me to find my birth mother and those siblings. He was actually the one who contacted this person and that person and led me to the door of both my birth grandparents and mother and those siblings. I cannot say that our relationship lasted much past the point of my finding my birth family, but I will forever be grateful for his initiative. Because of that kind of determination, I finally received some answers to my lifelong questions,

I say this all because someone somewhere is searching for their birth family. They too have felt left aside, unwanted, or unloved. Don’t give up! Keep searching for answers. It is never too late. As long as you have breath in your body. You may not get the answers you want. You may hear things you never wanted to but at least you will have some sort of answer. Not everyone you meet will help you, perhaps they may not want you but believe in yourself enough to try. Believe in yourself enough to keep going.

Today is your day, It is your life. Be strong, be brave, be courageous.

Life is for the “Living”.

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I shall see you on this side of the rainbow~!

2021MwsRWritings

Podcast – Adoption: The Long View

I am adopted. I came across this post and wanted to share.

Check it out.

Just listened to Lesli Johnson being interviewed by Lori on Adoption: The Long View podcast. The Adopted Baby As A Blank Slate: Thoughts On The …

Podcast – Adoption: The Long View

Adoption Stories ~They Will Inspire You

17 Adoption Stories That Will Warm Your Heart (buzzfeed.com)

I wish my own adoption had been the happy one you see on Tv and on social media platforms. Sadly, mine was not the best. I found though that despite my own story of adoption, many have had a really wonderful adoption experience. I am pro adoption and wanted to share some stories that may warm your heart. With so much to be thankful for, this link will show you some more thankfulness.

MwsR

Facts About Adoption~ National Adoption Month

Hello. I was adopted when I was an infant. I was adopted by a blood relative. This did not mean I was always in the “know” of my blood mother or father, or my siblings. I did however go on to later find my biological family. Not everyone was found but the majority of the closest relatives were found. Not every adoption is a good one, as I myself came to know, but some go on to be the best thing ever for some.

Please if you are looking for a child to call your very own and cannot have your own biological children, consider adopting! It would likely change your life as well as the life of a child looking for love.

Mwsr

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