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Let’s talk about…kids and government

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How in the world can we give our kids what they need in life if our government sticks it’s nose in our home and personal affairs?

I am not one of those people who want to over throw our government, but let me tell you… after looking at this mornings headlines and like many other mornings. Most certainly, like many other days of headline news, the government is invading our personal “bubbles”.

I just think that it is our own personal right to discipline, guide, nurture,  and love our own kids  the best way we see fit. Too often you hear about the government charging parents with something that their children have done, yet the government tells us that we are not right when we try to punish them and in the way we see fit. The kid, in my opinion, would not had been in trouble so much, enough to warrant the parent’s arrest, if they had of had some form of discipline or consequence, for their actions. Yet, our government steps into our homes and calls it child abuse.  Um…ok…not.

I am not a gun-ho disciplinarian, but I did punish my kids when need be, and they did get consequences for deliberate disobedience. I would have probably been locked up myself, considering that our government thinks physical punishment, is bad. I also did a lot of re-directing, my kids when they were young. It worked most of the time, but there was occasions it didn’t.  I had time-outs, and taking away privileges and “what not”but I disagree with the government telling me how to do things when it comes to my own family or my own free will.

I am not trying to start a “over ride” of policies or start a “hate” campaign. I just wish that the government would mind their own business. I do not walk into their offices and tell them how to do things, especially when I don’t know what it is about. Follow me here? Even if you agree or disagree, we should come to a joint agreement that we all are entitled to certain inalienable rights. Right?

One of the most important things we have are our kids. Our children are the best gift we have been giving. If we have our hands, “tied”, how are we to help them to be the best and happiest , that they can be.

Locking the parents up who spanked their child…

Or walking into a person’s home and removing their kids, without just cause or on a “here say”…

I have a hard time with this.

There are real cases of abuse and deliberate harm to a kid that happens. There are mean parents that intentionally hurt their kids. They should be the ones to get put into jail. When there are people though that want what’s best for their kids, they should be commended.

Not apprehended!

Thanks for reading!

Have a good day, share away!

Michelle, MwsR ❤

More Information for you!!!

Parental Rights, Parental Responsibilities

The U.S. Supreme Court has held that parents have a fundamental right to rear their children without undue interference by the government. (Pierce v. Society of Sisters, 268 U.S. 510 (1925.) But, in the same decision, the Court upheld the power of states to force parents to ensure that their children attend school. So, parenting is by no means an unfettered right and, as with many rights, it carries significant legal responsibilities

https://www.criminaldefenselawyer.com/resources/criminal-defense/juvenile/parents-responsibility-childs-criminal-actions

Status crimes

Some parental responsibility laws hold parents legally accountable for allowing their children to engage in conduct that would not be illegal if done by an adult, such as skipping school (truancy) or breaking curfew laws. Truancy and curfew violations are considered “status crimes,” because they penalize conduct that is only illegal based on the status (in this case, age) of the person engaged in the conduct. As mentioned above, the U.S. Supreme Court has upheld the power of states to compel school attendance. And parental responsibility to make sure children attend school is an “affirmative duty,” meaning that a parent has to actively ensure their attendance. (An exception to truancy laws has been made for home schooling that meets state standards.)

Courts have also upheld parental responsibility under curfew laws applyed to minors, based on the vulnerability of children and the public interest in protecting their welfare.

Contributing crimes

Any adult, not merely a parent or guardian, may be prosecuted for contributing to the delinquency of a minor if the adult encourages or induces the minor to engage in criminal activity. For example, an adult (whether a parent of a child or not) who furnishes a minor with alcohol will be prosecuted under state law penalizing contributing to the delinquency of a minor. Unlike parental responsibility for status crimes (which is generally based on negligent parenting), parental liability under contributing crimes is based on the parent (or other adult) having actually enabled or induced the minor’s illegal conduct.

http://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/04/spanking.aspx/

Parents in the domestic trenches are probably not all that interested in what the research shows anyway. Despite a battery of disciplinary techniques, including the infamous “time out,” redirection and the increasing emphasis on positive discipline (try substituting “hold the cup carefully” for “don’t spill your juice”), spanking and slapping are still pretty popular.

Moms and dads who spank do so because they believe it’s effective, and research actually shows that it is — in the short-term. A child reaching for a tempting object will stop if he gets swatted. “It does work in the immediate moment, but beyond that, in most cases, it’s very ineffective,” says Holden. “The most common long-term consequence is that children learn to use aggression.”

http://healthland.time.com/2011/06/28/would-you-record-yourself-spanking-your-kids/

https://www.newsmax.com/US/spanking-studies-children-spock/2010/01/07/id/345669/

Dr. Diana Baumrind of the University of California, Berkeley and her teams of professional researchers over a decade conducted what is considered the most extensive and methodologically thorough child development study yet done. They examined 164 families, tracking their children from age four to 14. Baumrind found that spanking can be helpful in certain contexts and discovered “no evidence for unique detrimental effects of normative physical punishment.”

She also found that children who were never spanked tended to have behavioral problems, and were not more competent than their peers.

As in climate change, politicians all over the world seem out of touch with the most rigorous science regarding parental discipline. The newest research could constitute powerful ammunition to parents rights activists seeking to reverse the global trend of intrusive governments muscling themselves between the rod and the child.

Read Newsmax: Pro-Spanking Studies May Have Global Effect | Newsmax.com
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Today Is Bad Poetry Day, Ha ha

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I looked at my yahoo calendar today. On my calendar I have allowed notifications for Funny Holidays. So, when I opened it this morning, I found out it was “BAD POETRY DAY”. 

Imagine that!

Is there such a thing as bad poetry?  I guess so, if the grammar and spelling on it is atrocious.  However, I think all poetry, in any style , shape, or fashion, is not bad. It really is a personal preference I would say. So, in lieu of it being” Bad Poetry Day”, I guess I will try to write something to illustrate this funny holiday.

Bad Poetry

Enside us al is tha capabilitie  to fale,

It is en ennate ryte to mispel.

Whin we do we wyl be cratigued

Trust me, I can already cee.

If yur spel chek is knot working

Your peace of work will be baad

Arent u glad I reminded u!?

Now geet it ryte.

YEP, I think that about sums it up folks!

Happy Bad Poetry Day!

Michelle, aka MwsR ❤

Short Parable by MwsR

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“Learn to fly”, said the mother bird as she pushed her little one from the nest.

Fly, he did.

Until a giant hawk spied him.

His mother didn’ t warn him about the many dangers in the sky.

Only the ones crawling on the ground.

If his mother had of, he would had never took to flight.

MwsR ❤

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Sometimes the things we do know are not the things we need to know.

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Life is about taking chances.

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If we let our fears rule us we would never really live.

Let’s Write About Me/Personal Share

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So,

I was just thinking to myself that a lot of you call me Mws, which is my writer name. My adopted name is Michelle. My birth name was changed once I was adopted.

Some things about me are:

I love a variety of animals. I am such a freak about animals. I love watching them, love touching them, and love loving them. Ask my family to name one thing about me, bet it will be my love for animals. The second thing better be how much I love!  Lol

I really like to express my thoughts, feelings, and emotions with words. I also like to write trying my best to express what another person might be feeling in their life. I don’t know why but it is something I feel I do well.   I was asked to write a poem once from a person’s perception of another person, one who has passed away. They wanted me to write a poem to express their relationship with this person that passed away. I  had no clue what their relationship was like but I gave it a shot after getting some information from the person relating to their life with this other person.  I wrote from my heart, picturing in my own mind what it would feel like to be I that person’s shoes. I wrote from a perspective I knew some about but the rest of what I wrote was from my own empathy.

That is just one thing though, in my life, years ago that led me to write for public viewing. At first I was not careful. I did not check my spelling or grammar, much. I wrote things though that were received with fabulous comments from onlookers. I was not a writer that had perfect wording or penmanship but I was one who wrote as my heart led me. I am and have always been a lover of rhyming. Dr. Seuss and I share a birthday so I immediately felt a kinship with this master of rhymes. I have always sang songs with my children making a rhythmic wordy song. They looked at me like I was crazy most of the time, but moments when they were little, was precious and I made them laugh as I ran around the house singing crazy made up songs that had the tune of a familiar song.

Anyhow,

I also like hearts, in case you have not noticed, from my signature and my page. They are my favorite shapes. I also love to cook, thus the reason why I post recipes also.  I am a middle child. Which makes me, in theory, the troublemaker or the one who is a handful. Ha ha. I laugh at that. Stereotypes can so be wrong!

I went through college, I stayed on the Dean’s List the whole time too. No, I am not a smart one, but I determined I was going to be the best me I could be in college. It helped that it was a degree that I lived, so to speak, in my own life. I was familiar with the subjects. They were like secondhand knowledge to me. It was an easy “A” for me in that regard. Not to say I did not have a lot to memorize, and learn.

Therefore,

I am a simple-ton. I am not materialistic at all. I am not a brand hog, I wear what feels good. I am a diabetic, type 2. I am a friendly sort of person, if you ever meet you, hopefully you will agree. I love sunsets, water, oceans, and flying. I believe there is an eternal place we all will reach after we die. I believe in my country. I also believe that doing good not only benefits the person receiving it but the one giving it.

And lastly,

I  have not had the prettiest life, the fanciest life, or the easiest one yet I am a survivor of abuse, neglect, and judgements.  I love to hear birds sing, laying in the grass as a breeze blows, and sharing time with my precious family and friends.

This may be too much to know, or too little to know of me, but it is simply the real me. I hope to make friends, people smile and have peace in the rest of my life.

Take care, thanks for reading,

MwsR<3

Writing, babbling, about Love!

 

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Inside all of us is the need to be loved or appreciated. It is true, you know. We all need it it gives us a connection, some type of place to belong.

I feel really sad for those who have never heard, “I love you”. Those who crave it yet never get their fill. Love can be complicated and it most certainly can make fools of us all too. It is in touch, feeling, sense and sensations. It is wide or narrow, it can stretch enough to go around to each individual in our world.

What is so hard about saying “I love you?” I think that is different for every situation. Why can a mother carry a child for nine months and then give birth and how can she not feel love for that child? What about the kid who never has been hugged? That in my book is simply atrocious. It should never be.

Complicated love, twisted love, one-sided love, mistaken love, these are just some examples of the kinds of love. You also have true love, sincere love, honest love, devoted love and forever love. I would much rather have the latter group. Wouldn’t you?

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Heck, I don’t know why I decided to write about love, and connection and a place to belong. Probably chalk it up to some rantings of  person who thinks love is a key to almost all things worth experiencing or feeling. It can change people’s lives and melt the coldest heart. I have seen love take a person who almost ended their own life, and helped them become whole again. Love is so magical and so strong.

Living is not worth a darn if you have no love in it. It could be as simple as loving a pet, a  place, or a thing. It does not necessarily have to be two people to have love. I have loved many pets, things and stuff in my life as I know you have to.

If you have never been told, “I love you”, I am deeply sorry. If you have never known real love, unconditional love, I am heartbroken for you. Allow yourself to know love, to feel love, to give love and receive it.

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Love ❤

You can have faith, hope, and love, as Jesus said, but the greatest of these is LOVE.

Let’s go out there and love , PEOPLE!

MwsR ❤

 

The Letter I Have Never Wrote /Personal Thoughts

 

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Hi, hope you are well.

How do I even begin, the words still escape me. Although this has weighed heavy on my heart and occupied my dreams. I know in life we take the good and the bad. We give or either we take. I guess I am a giver, a bona fide giver.

Now that isn’t saying that I am not a taker. Sure I am. For years I took what was left after you gave others what they needed. I took because I did not know I deserved more. I felt like I was just a speck on your radar, not much to see, really. I wanted to be accepted. I wanted you to love me for me. All the nice staged words did not hide the animosity in your eyes. I saw it on many occasions. I saw how you thought I was a leech, just taking your money and your things, but you never saw how much they meant to me. You did not want to see that where those things were, I felt you that meant you cared.

I admit I was not the best of the best when it came to making you proud. I did however not follow a crowd. I was my own person, free in spirit and full of life. I tried to impress you more than depress you. I failed, I admit. You lost that sparkle that comes with genuine love for me, when I reached my teens. You only saw my failures and my childish dreams as a burden.

You never took the time to see me hurting.

Those nights I prayed for thunder and lightning to answer my questions. Those nights when I was bound so tight in my covers that I literally looked froze. I was trying to hide and stay safe also. You did not ever really sit me down to talk. You never explained your thoughts on what I was doing and why. I think you turned a blind eye. See I had music to lighten my heavy heart, you could not even let me listen to it. You thought it was the tool of the devil. I knew it was my saving grace.

I was not a talkative sort. I kept my questions to myself. I never harmed anyone or anything else. I loved every creature, and loved all my things, I was very appreciative. You always made me feel guilty for messing up. You made me so nervous, I would hate coming home. I knew you were looking at every mistake, it would have been better if I had died from a stake.

I really did not intend to blame you for anything I did in error. I can blame you though for turning that blind eye. Leaving me to deal with adult things all by myself. Leaving me alone when you left the house, you did that intentionally. You did not want to know what it was that was happening to me.

You told me things like it was my fault. Maybe I was dressing the wrong way or wearing the wrong things. It never was your or his fault. It was always mine. I wish I knew the lies you had to tell yourself to believe in what you was doing. I came to you, ask you for help, asked you to be there for me. You refused. Said it would complicate home life. Yep, it sure did, not yours but mine.

Anyhow, what is done is done. What happened was never believed by the one person I thought would believe and support me.Okay, whatever. I think if I could have an honest time alone with you, this is some of what I would say. I don’t know though, because you always had a way of twisting things to your approval.  You were my joy when I was young. I adored everything about you. I wanted to be like you. In my mind there was nothing I wanted more than your approval.

As the many years have left me still wondering and questioning things, one has never been answered to truth. Did you ever really love me? I don’t want no crap, I want to know the truth. Oh you have said you did many times. Well, when we were speaking.

I just guess I will just guess. It is better that way.

I cannot go through another rejection, anyway.

I want you to know that despite all this, I love you. I always will. I cannot be that person you imagined in your mind. I never could.

I hope when you lay down at night, that you think of me, and you are sorry on how things went.

Forever just a second thought,

Me

 

My thoughts/>>>>Let’s Talk About Bullying!!!!

https://americanspcc.org/bullying/statistics-and-information/

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Bullying Statistics

 

160,000 kids per day skips school for fear of being bullied.1

When bystanders intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57% of the time.2

The 3 B’s of Bullying
1.Bullier – 30% of youth admit to bullying
2.Bullied – 1 in 3 students bullied at school
3.Bystander – 70% have witnessed bullying

BEEN BULLIED
28% of U.S. students in grades 6–12 experienced bullying.3
20% of U.S. students in grades 9–12 experienced bullying.4

BULLIED OTHERS
Approximately 30% of young people admit to bullying others in surveys.5

WITNESSED BULLYING
70.6% of young people say they have seen bullying in their schools.6
70.4% of school staff have seen bullying. 62% witnessed bullying two or more times in the last month and 41% witness bullying once a week or more.7
When bystanders intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57% of the time.2

BEEN CYBERBULLIED
6% of students in grades 6–12 experienced cyberbullying.8
16% of high school students (grades 9–12) were electronically bullied in the past year.9
However, 55.2% of LGBT students experienced cyberbullying

Bullying…

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Risk Factor for Bullying

No single factor puts a child at risk of being bullied or bullying others. Bullying can happen anywhere—cities, suburbs, or rural towns. Depending on the environment, some groups, such as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgendered (LGBT) youth,11 youth with disabilities,12 and socially isolated youth, may be at an increased risk of being bullied.

Generally, children who are bullied have one or more of the following risk factors:
•Are perceived as different from their peers, such as being overweight or underweight, wearing glasses or different clothing, being new to a school, or being unable to afford what kids consider “cool”
•Are perceived as weak or unable to defend themselves
•Are depressed, anxious, or have low self-esteem
•Are less popular than others and have few friends
•Do not get along well with others, seen as annoying or provoking, or antagonize others for attention

However, even if a child has these risk factors, it doesn’t mean that they will be bullied.

It has affected someone I love…

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My daughter was a victim of bullying in her middle school years. She was treated really  cruel by her own peers. Her teachers and administrators of her school were not there for her. They did not see her struggling and never saw the bullying that she was subjected to, or so they said.

One of the ways my daughter was bullied was that her bullies took her possessions. Once she had her mp3 taken and her book bag was taken and placed under a running shower in gym class.  Her stuff was soaked and her spirit was damaged. She did not know why she was constantly being bullied, but I as her mom, figured it was because she was a girl who “marched to her own drum”, her beautiful inquisitive self was different from her age group and she was still so young at heart. While her so-called friends were trying makeup on and worrying about their clothes, she was looking for bugs, to explore and still so naively innocent. She did not care for things like that, the things like makeup and fashion, or trying to grow up too fast. All her teachers found her “young at heart” characteristics refreshing.

I think children are always in too much of  a hurry to grow up, and too fast. Children should be children for as long as they can, just my opinion.

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I have never really cared for bullies. I really though can relate to their many reasons for doing so. Sometimes people feel the need to make other people feel inferior to them, because it makes them feel superior. Or perhaps they get bullied at home and that is the only behavior they recognize or that is the only way they relate to people, you know?

I am not by any means saying it is right, because it most certainly is not! It is something that can greatly change a person’s life, I know you have watched television and saw the many suicides from people who have been bullied. Even in cyber space there is a considerable amount of bullying going on. You can find it in workplaces, college, school, homes, and playgrounds. It is everywhere, when someone who wants to be a bully.

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I wish it was something we did not have to worry about. Any parent ho has a child that is somehow different, they worry about this. The person who is obese worries about this! The person who is kind of weird, worries about this!

It affects all walks of humans, all aspects of a person’s life. It almost like a disease, in that the ways it does affect a person.

WHY ME?

If you or someone you love is being bullied or has been bullied then you have to know it is not your fault or theirs. It is simply someone who empowers their own self despite the implications for another or pain it causes another person.

HOW DO YOU STOP BULLIES???…

Well there is no easy answer. It must start in a person’s childhood, in their homes, in their schools, on the playgrounds and in the churches. Adults need to identify and understand how bullying is and what it does. Adults need to be role models and they need to report bullying to the appropriate person’s when they se a child , especially, being affected. The adults need to help somehow. Children cannot speak for themselves a lot of times because they fear for their own self’s. Sometimes the child will become a recluse because they are scared. Getting information from a bullied child is sometimes a “hit and miss” at best.

Workplaces, you should always report it. Ask to remain anonymous. Leave a note on a supervisors desk if you have to.

Parents, don’t let one of your children constantly get picked on. Intervene when and where necessary. Make sure each child does not have a reason to bully.

I am passionate about helping children and adults that are bullied. I have seen it in my own life and in my own family. I do not wish anyone to be a victim of bullying. No matter how different, how much of a weirdo a person might be, we all deserve respect and understanding. We all deserve to be who we want to be, without being bullied.

If you know someone who is being bullied, please try to help them. Children who are bullied can grow up to be bullies themselves.

Let’s stop the cycle!

Thank you for reading! Share post if you want to.

Michelle(MwsR) ❤

Love/thoughts from me

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I  have always thought love was something that had to be shared between the love and loved.. I thought fairy tales were for dreamers. Seems though that is not true. You can love something or someone and never ever really get their love in return. It is possible to dream and for it to come true, and that does not mean it is a fairytale of magical means, but of earthly things.

As a kid I knew that I was a lover of things. I loved my dolls and stuffed animals as if they were real. I loved little bugs, and little leaves from a tree. I also loved objects that I came across, like a rock or a petal. To me anything that was present on this planet was something to love. I often see my little girl self in my adult self today. I do still love and although my love has been battered and broken at times, I still have the capacity to really love.

You can actually find me outside looking at birds with admiration, perhaps bending down to talk with a bug. If you are really sneaky you would see me talking to trees or the wind as it blows. I am not crazy, just I really love.  Love has never been limited to people for me. I love all my animals I keep as my pets. I love little bees that fly from flower top to flower top. I love the feel of a soft blanket on my feet, these are things I love and they are like a special treat.

Human love I have is so much of the other love I have. I see myself going out of my way to make another in my life feel okay. I find myself trying to put myself last, just so someone I love can have it better than me. That is just one way i love those around me. For me to love a human, I need to feel free to, if it is pushed on me, it will not last. I get burdened down and my love will not last. It needs to be selfless , the way that I love.

The hard part of love for me is loving myself. I am my own self’s worst critic. I do not really know how to love every part of me, I only wish I could. I find the hardest thing is letting someone else love me too. I am not good at that at all. Sadly I know that it is best to learn to love all of me before I can really ever truly love another, but I argue that as best I can. I think you can love another without really ever truly loving yourself. I have done it my whole lifetime. To me loving another thing or person is way easier than loving me.

Sure, there are things I love about myself. I love how I love, lol. I love how much I continue to believe and hope in things even when they have let me down. I love how caring and kind I can be to others that might not give a darn about me. I love how my eyes are, my skin, my freckles, and my smile. There are lots I have to give, lots I bring to the table. I am who I am because of the lack of love I received and the amount of love I was given. It took a whole lot to come up with me, I am sure. Lol

If there is one thing in this world I would want for anyone, anything, it would be LOVE.

Is love not good? It is strong, it is uplifting. Love is kind and forgiving. Love is wonderful and our greatest hurt. Love is what we make of it and what we give. I just love talking about love. If we have faith, hope and love, the greatest will always be love.

Love ❤

Thanks for reading!

MwsR<3