How we see ourselves is not always how others do.
It is a defining thing for the way we deal and interact with others.
Sometimes it really hard to come to terms with what we find out.
If someone takes the time to tell you things about yourself, that they perceive, perhaps we could benefit from knowing, and in turn, turn things around that might be upside down.
If we do not like what others see we can take the opportunity to change and help them to see us in a different light.
Who knows?
MwsR ❤
There are those born into an identity.
Then there are those born without one.
The ones without one search for one they think they should have.
The ones born with an identity think their choices and lot in life is already chosen for them.
What one has , the other does not.
The one without identity at birth, have an opportunity to make their own. They have no real “limits” to whom they can be.
Which one is worse off? Which one had it made?
Both suffer, but both have the ability to change their own identities any time they wish.
The task in doing so will certainly be different for them, but the outcome the same.
They will have taken control of their own life and given it the identity of their choosing.
MwsR ❤
To allow yourself to be loved, truly, you have to allow yourself to be somewhat vulnerable.
It does not mean you surrender, just that you are open to feeling, receiving, and reciprocating affectionate love.
Accept love.
MwsR ❤
I am struggling with so many burdens, this holiday season. I always do. I will be okay though.
Part of living is feeling, and sometimes it hurts to feel. That should not stop us, you, or me.
Take what you feel, put it into perspective, set it aside on a “back burner”for a while if you must. We all need a little time, to just rest.
Pick those feelings back up and work your way through them. Possibly a minute at a time, maybe a few days, possibly years. Take the needed time. Until one day those feelings have moved to a different way or position in your mind.
It is okay to feel bad, cry, close off yourself (only for a short time) just don’t let yourself stay down.
It gets very lonely at the bottom of feelings, you don’t want that.
To everything, every feeling, every hurt, give them a proper place in your head, your mind. Then move them out or better yet, replace them with better ones.
I am not a psychologist, doctor, or expert, but I have and do feel this thing called LIFE.
Have a good rest of your day.
Remember…
You deserve unconditional love.
You are worth it!
Mwsr ❤
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I always have a hard time during the Holiday season. It is like someone found a knife that has been stuck inside me all my life and slowly they twist it, and it reminds me it is there… MwsR ❤
If I can be honest with you, it is hard to imagine a holiday season that has not brought me equal shares of joy and pain. I have a lovely immediate family and you would think that they alone could heal my broken heart. Sadly, no one ever can, not really. I am my own worst reminder of things that could have been…
We have all been there and done that. We can be our own worst enemies when that happens.
I hate having to “wish upon a star”, I want all the stars wish for me!!!!!!!!
I am tired of feeling lost, unconnected, forgotten, dismissed, and so forth. For me, it is in relation to my childhood and my adoption. I know that part, I really do. I have an issue with all of it, how I was deceived, lost, and well…not thought of. I should of had many years side by side with those that I so desperately searched for my whole young and young adult life.
This is just me, being as real as I can be!
So much time has passed, so many lies left unsolved, so many wrong decisions, and so little cherished moments. Sometimes I actually must be having a pity party for myself, because it feels so all-consuming and like I am a rat in a trap, with no way to ever escape.
I feel cheated, I feel lots of sorrow, lots of hurt. I may never truly heal from all the damage that those I looked to. to be my helpers and parents, and caregivers and such, have done. I am angry, sad and in a whole lot of confusion. I wish I knew why my life turned out into what it did, and why no one ever wanted me to know my birth family and why it was that others kept me from those who would go on to be a great part in who I am and became. Holidays remind me of that, all of that and more.
Holidays are definitely not for me to feel special or good , I have come to this conclusion. I must just accept that the past should stay past and I should move forward and without regret. EASIER SAID THAN DONE. I sometimes think, I could swap my life from someone else’s but what good would that be, I mean really. I do not know anyone I would want to switch lives with. I would not have my husband, kids the family I have now.
I guess I will try and quit whining. I have a good life, people that love me and a life that makes me better, want to do better, and helps me want to be a good person.
Moral of this story….”whining”
It is to make the most of every day you have been given and to go forward and not stay in the past. A person’s past can and often does make a prisoner of those who go there. Being adopted was not the worst thing in my life, and it really should of never been bad to begin with. It was though, and in living through it, moving through it and past it, I have some valuable lessons in the school of mankind. I take with me the ability to stay back in that hurt and pain or to help others move from their own. I can help others to feel that there is a way from all the past mistakes, hurts, and grasps of those who seek to hurt us. We can empower others, ourselves and we can move into a beautiful place with our lives.
Holidays are such a reminder of things that could have been , for me… They do not have to be for you. I can take that memory and lay it down when I get tired, when I feel anxiety or pressure. I can take those feelings and place them at the feet of the one in whom I believe has the power to carry those burdens for me, his name is Jesus. He alone not any man, can help me, can help you and can help anyone who desperately seeks his help.
No I am not trying to force a religious view on you, or help you to accept Jesus, that i your own decision, you alone make that . But I am here to help others in what I do or do not write, what I say or do not say… You get the jest. Please do not let past things take your future joy, your future peace or your future.
Will Holidays always suck for me? Yes and NO. I can choose what to allow into my inner peace. So can you! See just typing this different outlook than I started out with.
Here is to a wonderful Holiday season for all and a remembrance of the strength you have inside yourself, and that it has always been there.
MwsR ❤
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I wanted to write today, on something. I am not really certain how to go about writing, though. As I browse down the list of posts on my WordPress reader option, I am taken back by some posts that bring things in my own life to the forefront.
Isn’t it odd how something you can see or read can cause many things to flood into your mind? I am concerned , not only today but everyday on the lives of others around our world. There is a lot of people missing out on life and living it to the fullest, me included. I see people walking around with so much on their plates, hearts, and minds. I constantly hear of tragedies and trials that await people, everywhere in our world. Personally it makes me sad. We have to be careful not to take upon our heart the troubles and sadness of others in a manner where it takes over and spills into our own lives. Sadly, it has trapped me some in knowing what those things have been personally, for me, and replaying them while watching them play out, in others lives.
I hope you can follow me. My mind talks so fast, it is hard to put down into words as my fingers try to keep up. I am often concerned to no avail to, honestly. I cannot personally take care of everybody or their problems, and if I am honest, no one is asking me to. Do you follow me? We cannot personally do everything we need to do, we are simply human.
Okay enough about the depressing thoughts of not being able to help solve everyone’s issues or being able to change things.
I saw a post this morning about emotional abuse and it had me thinking… After reading the first part of my post, you probably already know I think. Hahaha. the emotional abuse post had me thinking on how people everywhere in any kind of relationship experiences emotional abuse on some level and in some way. So, It usually does not last long or cause substantial damage, but if we were to think about it, it has more than not happened. So, what makes it abuse? I think it is when someone uses their motives, ways, words, etc., to sway or move, or damage, or imprison another. If it causes the other person to feel less than desirable, un important, or damaged, it is abuse. Abuse is ugly and it usually has a keeper and a prisoner to it.
Emotional abuse is wrong, so if you are a victim or you see it happening, ask and seek out help. A lot of places stay anonymous and let you stay hidden enough that you can freely seek help.
Living in a situation less than desirable is hard enough, but living without love and acceptance is a hard “pill” to swallow.
So,
With all that being posted, “thank God”I am free to think on other things. I really let things dwell deep into my soul. I felt I needed to post about that. Perhaps someone reading this has been there, is there, or like me, struggles everyday to release their selves from past abuse.
Did you know…that by writing posts, or what have you’ s that you directly and indirectly influence another’s life? You DO.
Please be good to others, please be kind to yourselves!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We get this one lifetime to do good, use it wisely.
I shall see you this side of the RAINBOW!!!
MwsR ❤
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